Posted on: February 14, 2008 12:15 am
Edited on: February 14, 2008 12:17 am

V-Day = D-Day

Love and relationships can be sport too.

I had been dating this guy for a little while. We hadn’t talked about exclusivity, but it was obvious it was headed in that direction because the amount of time we spent together was increasing. I really liked him, but hadn’t slept with him yet. I admit I was dying to, but I wanted to be sure he and I were on the same page. I figured Valentine’s Day would tell it all. He showed up at my door in a suit with roses and chocolates. He took me to a really nice dinner. These are not the actions of a guy who isn’t sincere about his feelings. He got lucky that night, my gift to him, lol. There was lingerie to go with it too.

Men, let me tell you, V-Day is D-Day in any kind of relationship you’re in. I realize it’s a marketing excuse holiday, but it exists none the same. Women are just waiting to see what you’re going to do.

If you’re married, you better not forget, or else you’re in the doghouse. I’m sure the married men on here can attest. If you do forget, you’re basically telling your wife you take her for granted. It’s not important to you to remember times when you’re supposed to be romantic. She will never let you forget it either. You know I’m right. Us women are brutal. Besides, keeping the romance alive is essential in any relationship otherwise it’s likely to fizzle. I’m sorry guys, it’s true. You’re just going to have to bite the bullet and pull some romance out of your hat even if you don’t like it.

If you’re in a relationship, it’s your chance to show your girlfriend how you really feel. If you do it right, the rewards are endless, if you know what I mean. By the same token, it’s also an opportunity to end a relationship because no rational woman is going to think the guy she’s dating is serious if he blows off Valentine’s Day. Yes, we can be rational and take the hint.

If there’s a woman you like who you haven’t had the guts to approach, well, here’s your opportunity. It’s National Love Day. Take full advantage.

Has your significant other told you she doesn’t want you to do anything? Don’t fall for it! It’s a test! Seriously, women do this sometimes. I don’t, but I’ve seen it happen. She seems cool and talks about how Valentine’s Day is so commercial, and how she hates it. It’s a trap because as soon as she sees all the other women with flowers, etc., she’s wondering if she’s going to get any. All of a sudden she has selective amnesia and forgets she told you to forget it. You show up with nothing, she pouts. You ask her what’s wrong, and she won’t tell you. Sound familiar? You start guessing and Valentine’s Day comes up. “But you told me not to do anything, honey?” “And you believed me????” In life in general, it’s best to follow the motto, better safe than sorry.

As much as the rational side of me knows Valentine’s Day is just a gimmick, I can’t help but want to be a part of it. Any female who says she doesn’t is lying, even if it’s a tiny, tiny piece of her not visible to the eye. Show the women in your life you’re up to the challenge and romance is not dead. Let me add you get points for creativity. Anyone can make a reservation and buy some flowers. I believe the best romantic gesture doesn’t have to cost any money. Spending money is too easy. Thought takes time and effort and shows her how much you care. The best gift I ever got from a guy was a song he wrote for me.

D-Day has come, men! I admit we can be difficult at times, but we’re worth it, so don’t blow it. If you need any advice, feel free. I wish you much luck!

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