Posted on: February 20, 2008 11:29 am
Edited on: February 20, 2008 11:35 am

Can't We All Just Get Along?

I know my blog title implies your typical sports knowledge which I do possess, but life can prove sporting at times too, in my opinion. I certainly don't mean playing games because I'm a straight shooter and appreciate others who are the same. In any event, my blog items will certainly turn to your typical sports at times, but as you can see, my first posts have been about the sporting life, and this one is no different. I also feel the need to vent in a philosophical way sometimes which means you're all going to be subjected to my thoughts on people and life. 

This post is going to focus on what I call tunnel vision. The definition of a person who has such an affliction is someone who can only see things and people through a narrow tunnel rather than a wide open picture. These people are basically stuck in their own worlds and can't appreciate that everything is not about them. If these people had their affliction treated when it acted up, we'd all get along much better. 

How to treat it?  Take one step back, take a deep breath, look around you and call me in the morning.  I add that call me in the morning part in partly as a joke, but partly to say it's best not to get into it when you're in the dreaded tunnel vision.  If you can't empathize with anyone else but yourself, you're not going to be in the right state of mind to resolve a disagreement since you can't see the other side of it.  For example, person A is walking down the street after just having been fired.  A accidentally bumps into person B who has tunnel vision.  Person B immediately starts going off on A even though they apologized.  Voices rise, a fist fight ensues, and the police have to break it up.  Person A may have gotten to relieve their stress for a little bit, but they also get to go to the hospital to treat their arm that got broken, and afterwards have to go to the police station because they were charged with disturbing the peace, etc.  If Person B had taken a moment, they might've realized Person A wasn't paying attention for a reason and accepted their apology instead of making their day markedly worse. 

Maybe this is too much to ask of a stranger because it's really not fair to expect someone to be a mind reader.  My point though is when you're in tunnel vision, you don't think anyone else can have a problem other than you.  So, it's not too much to ask to acknowledge that with the everyday people in your life, at the very least.  If your coworker arrives late to relieve you, ask why instead of getting pissed off first.  When someone in your life does something out of character, don't criticize them, recognize this isn't them, and find out why.  They may have a problem they're keeping to themselves and need your help, but are afraid to ask.  Deviant behavior usually has a cause.  When you're in a bad mood yourself, don't take it out on a salesperson thinking what do they care.  Maybe they hate their job, and people like you are making it worse. 

Take one step back and a deep breath on a daily basis, and I bet you'll have less arguments and stress in your life.  You'll also feel better about yourself because your actions will affect others in a positive way instead of a negative.  Isn't it better to put a smile on someone's face rather than a frown? 

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