Tag:Life
Posted on: March 27, 2008 9:28 pm
Edited on: March 27, 2008 10:26 pm
 

The Gospel According to Yankeechick

As a manager of people, I have developed a definition of work ethic. Honestly, I use me as a baseline because I've always believed in putting my maximum effort forward to earn my money. That's the way of my generation. The generation younger than me has no clue, not all, but most. You know who you are.

  1. Don't call out unless you have a death in the family, a legit emergency, or you're so sick you can't move. Don't use the death in the family and legit emergency excuses once a month.
  2. Accept the fact that you work for someone else and have to do what they say. If you don't want to follow someone else's rules, go work for yourself.
  3. Work. You're not getting paid to be lazy and screw around.
  4. Arrive at work on time. Be ready to work at that minute.
  5. Respect your co-workers and management. If you have nothing to do, offer them your help.
  6. If you hate your job, you're not forced to be there. Don't bitch and moan. Nobody wants to hear your negativity all the time. It brings everyone else down.
  7. Do your job to the best of your ability, and strive to be better. Status quo won't get you anywhere and going through the motions sucks.
  8. Revenge is not sweet. If your boss pisses you off, have the guts to approach them like an adult. Don't bitch about them behind their back, and threaten to do things like keying their car.
  9. Don't mouth off to your boss and co-workers. You can't expect them to speak to you with respect if you don't do likewise.
10. Gossip is bullshit in the workplace. Wtf is wrong with everyone making an effort to get along?! You're not going to like everyone, let alone be friends, but at least be professional for God's sake.
11. Admit you made a mistake. Don't point the finger at other people. Don't make excuses.
12. Go in at the last minute to help out if you're able.
13. Don't blow smoke up your bosses' ass. They can spot a phony a mile away, believe me. Just makes you come off as a liar, and it'll be difficult for them to trust you.

In order to accomplish the above you need maturity.

Maturity
  1. Don't be a coward. Have the guts to approach your problems and the people who may be involved with them.
  2. Choose your battles. Don't be petty. Yes, you should stand up for yourself and what you believe in, but know when enough's enough.
  3. Have some respect for someone other than yourself.
  4. Be willing to admit you were wrong. Don't deflect blame onto others. Don't make excuses.
  5. Learn from your mistakes. Don't repeat them.
  6. Align yourself with other mature people. Don't succumb to peer pressure.
  7. Know when you're too angry to have a productive conversation with someone. Nothing ever gets solved based on emotion. You can't get your point across. Know when you need to cool off first.
  8. Be logical and rational. Don't expect what just isn't possible.
  9. Accept people as they are. They're not going to behave like you, deal with it. See them for their good qualities.Accept that good qualities don't only apply to you. Change your outlook, not them.
10. Accept yourself as you are, faults and all. Be proud of all of you.
11. Go with the flow. Be flexible.
12. Move on. Don't hold a grudge forever. Forgive.
13. Be generous. Be good to others. Have empathy.
14. See the good in people and situations.
15. Be able to laugh at yourself.
16. Allow yourself to be yourself. Don't pretend to be something you're not to please others.
17. Be true to yourself and your beliefs. Nobody can ever take that away from you.
18. Follow your heart and you'll have no regrets.
19. Be able to see the big picture.

Category: General
Posted on: February 20, 2008 11:29 am
Edited on: February 20, 2008 11:35 am
 

Can't We All Just Get Along?

I know my blog title implies your typical sports knowledge which I do possess, but life can prove sporting at times too, in my opinion. I certainly don't mean playing games because I'm a straight shooter and appreciate others who are the same. In any event, my blog items will certainly turn to your typical sports at times, but as you can see, my first posts have been about the sporting life, and this one is no different. I also feel the need to vent in a philosophical way sometimes which means you're all going to be subjected to my thoughts on people and life. 

This post is going to focus on what I call tunnel vision. The definition of a person who has such an affliction is someone who can only see things and people through a narrow tunnel rather than a wide open picture. These people are basically stuck in their own worlds and can't appreciate that everything is not about them. If these people had their affliction treated when it acted up, we'd all get along much better. 

How to treat it?  Take one step back, take a deep breath, look around you and call me in the morning.  I add that call me in the morning part in partly as a joke, but partly to say it's best not to get into it when you're in the dreaded tunnel vision.  If you can't empathize with anyone else but yourself, you're not going to be in the right state of mind to resolve a disagreement since you can't see the other side of it.  For example, person A is walking down the street after just having been fired.  A accidentally bumps into person B who has tunnel vision.  Person B immediately starts going off on A even though they apologized.  Voices rise, a fist fight ensues, and the police have to break it up.  Person A may have gotten to relieve their stress for a little bit, but they also get to go to the hospital to treat their arm that got broken, and afterwards have to go to the police station because they were charged with disturbing the peace, etc.  If Person B had taken a moment, they might've realized Person A wasn't paying attention for a reason and accepted their apology instead of making their day markedly worse. 

Maybe this is too much to ask of a stranger because it's really not fair to expect someone to be a mind reader.  My point though is when you're in tunnel vision, you don't think anyone else can have a problem other than you.  So, it's not too much to ask to acknowledge that with the everyday people in your life, at the very least.  If your coworker arrives late to relieve you, ask why instead of getting pissed off first.  When someone in your life does something out of character, don't criticize them, recognize this isn't them, and find out why.  They may have a problem they're keeping to themselves and need your help, but are afraid to ask.  Deviant behavior usually has a cause.  When you're in a bad mood yourself, don't take it out on a salesperson thinking what do they care.  Maybe they hate their job, and people like you are making it worse. 

Take one step back and a deep breath on a daily basis, and I bet you'll have less arguments and stress in your life.  You'll also feel better about yourself because your actions will affect others in a positive way instead of a negative.  Isn't it better to put a smile on someone's face rather than a frown? 

Category: General
 
 
 
 
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